I’ve been thinking about the question “Has the ‘nice guy’ label become a red flag” all day and I’ve concluded that I hate labels… Most times lol. I think there are things that we all find universally nice, but to label someone as a “nice guy” is lowkey a bold move. Do I honestly know this person outside of a few word of mouth stories and random encounters? This also made me think about how I describe someone to a friend when they ask me for the “car facts” about someone. I’m usually giving them a biased lens of how I feel that person they asked about would be lined up with them. Even if sometimes I’m doing this unconsciously, I still do it. I’m considering what parts of the person in question need to be shared with my friend vs what they wouldn’t really mind and this statement alone shows just how much assuming has to happen when we label someone. Besides the obvious discovery of nice guy syndrome where someone uses “being nice” as an entitlement feature down the line, I think it’s just too much pressure on all parties because honestly, I would hate to be the friend to put someone on with the nice guy that’s actually a liar :/ . I am now here for just giving the facts and letting people come up with their own conclusions because we’ve been getting it wrong since the nice guy finishes last quote.
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